Same-sex couples & the Census

The number of Americans telling the US Census they’re living with same-sex partners nearly doubled in the past decade, to about 650,000 couples. And more than 130,000 recorded partners as husband or wife. Peg and I are delighted to be one of these. 

SIMULTANEOUSLY A SAD STORY ABOUT TRANSPHOBIA & A HEARTWARMING ALLY STORY

During a discussion a few days ago about how important it is for LGBT people and our allies to be allies to each other, a student named Kendralyn told the following beautiful story, which I share with her permission:

“Queer people sometimes assume that when I’m not in “their” spheres, I get to leave and go about my business living as any other straight person would. But I am always an ally no matter where I am. When I was home in Upstate NY, I was riding a city bus. At one of the stops a transgender woman, who didn’t present like a “typical” woman, got on. And I witnessed people being extremely nasty to her. They were saying things like, “It’s not Halloween yet”, “You’re a freak”, and people actually got up and moved to sit away from her. I stood from my seat and sat next to her and we had a lovely conversation. At one point, she was saying how sad it is that she gets made fun of and how people don’t understand her and that they call her ugly and I told her, “I think you’re beautiful.” People were giving us looks, but we smiled and kept talking with one another.”

Thank you Kendralyn!

National survey data on same-sex experience

Nat’l survey finds 10% of women 22-44 w/ bachelors report same-sex experience, compared w/ 15% of those w/o hs diploma. 3% of the women — & 5 percent of the least-educated women — said they were attracted equally to men & women. 

National survey data on same-sex experience

Loving the True Colors Conference

I spent today with 2000 amazing and VERY excited LGBTQ and ally youth at the True Colors Conference in Connecticut. What an amazing space, where lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, genderqueer, pansexual, queer, questioning and ally youth spend the day going to workshops, listening to speakers, and basking in teach others’ presence. For many conference attendees, it’s the first time they’ve ever been in a space where they felt fully accepted. It is an honor to be part of this event every year.

And now — I’m pooped! To bed early, and then back to the conference tomorrow morning. http://www.ourtruecolors.org/


If we want equality, we need to take action.

New data: “96.5% of LGBT adults in the US do not donate to LGBT organizations.” Ending homo/bi/transphobia is expensive. This makes me very sad. Advocate for equality. GIVE $ NOW! Google “equality + your state” or give to one of the national orgs or to your community center. If you only have a few dollars to give, then give a few dollars. Please! If we want equality, we need to take action.


A CEO, a tea party member, and a union member are sitting at a table. In the middle of the table is a plate with a dozen cookies. The CEO reaches over, takes 11 cookies, looks at the tea partier and says, “Look out for that union guy, he wants a piece of your cookie.”